My mother says that one of the great mysteries of my generation is the way we are all so quick to jump into “serious” relationships. “Your father and I, ” says she, “dated other people while we were dating. We both knew it. We just didn’t talk about it. That would be considered rude.”
Preach it sister! But here’s the thing — I think the inability to be relaxed about dating is a really unfortunate result of the whole feminism movement of the 70s and 80s. Before militant women freak, let me explain:
Nowadays, women are free to be open-minded, open-mouthed and sexually adventurous without the same kind of social stigma once attributed to the fairer sex behaving herself naturally (as C.K. Dexter Haven might say). But — and maybe we screwed up somewhere or men have yet to catch up — I find that women aren’t being treated any better; they’re just being lied to more often to keep them from making informed decisions and exercising their independence.
Here’s an example: If statistics are to be believed, a large number of the male population lies about their fidelity in relationships and so it’s seems to be a very simple and — ahem — popular thing to do. Not really that interesting. Sort of the wannabe popular kid following the in-crowd. Keeping up with the Joneses so to speak. (Pretty forgetable behavior really…)
But how many women accept the excuses, turn their cheeks and pretend not to see? Feminism my ass. And the true brutality is, as William Golding and George Orwell both wrote of so eloquently, human nature dictates that people rely on external consequences to civilize them. So thanks faux feminists for being selfish enough to play into or ignore (depending on the situation and what you hope to gain) the baser male instincts. You’ll make savages of men yet, all the while standing on your podiums and listening to your vaginas speak.
(ed. note: this does not excuse those pitable men who are so attuned to their egos they’ll believe the tripe of the faux feminist. Yours is an unhappy road…)
“Aaah, that’s the old redhead. No bitterness, no recrimination, just a good swift left to the jaw.” ~C.K. Dexter Haven
Thought for the day:
“A trilobite can wear shiny shoes and call himself a shark; this neither makes him a shark nor changes the fact that he must crawl around in the mire to survive.” ~ Me
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