Hola mis amigos! I was thinking about something this morning while running — because thinking is a natural byproduct of that kind of activity — that has to do with associations. I worked at my beloved alma mater (Go DAWGS!) while putting myself through grad school (full tuition remission is a beautiful thing) and the department I was in left a lasting impression on me in a very important way, primarily because it has translated to what I’m finding as I navigate the sometimes VERY shallow waters of DC: as much as it’s important to cultivate relationships wherein people will positively recommend you, it’s also important to make sure that you control WHO’s recommending you positively. Let me see if I can explain…
The department I was in (and this is in no way indicative of the University as a whole because UGA is an utterly amazing place) had this one supreme jerk heading it up, a very, very small man in a very, very big body. Most miserable man I’ve ever known. He had issues with authority, alpha male issues, issues with women, you name it, he had it. And he was no fan of mine because he asked me one day to tell all my bosses (I had 5. Sigh.) that his directives were paramount and I was to tell them no if what they needed conflicted with what he needed. Given my subservient position, and the fact that I have a father who was in the Army and is constantly warning me not to “jump the chain of command,” I suggested that perhaps he let them know that he was the new sheriff in town so when I had to tell them “no” it wasn’t perceived as insubordination. Yeah, that pissed him off. To this day I don’t know why. Sometimes — and you can laugh or call me arrogant or whatever — I think he just thought I was pretty and it made him uncomfortable. Seriously. Anyway, a friend of mine, a lifer in that department, when I was trying to decide if I should stick around and try to advance there following grad school or move to DC, was like, “You’ve already got a black mark against you on campus just for working here.”
But…it was true. People came away from this man so damaged they had a hard time getting over it. So when I left, I left clean — I asked for nothing, expected nothing, and never looked back; all the while knowing there would be pettiness in my wake. In short, I didn’t want him to speak well of me because I figured if Patrick Bateman (the American Psycho for those who don’t like film. What’s wrong with you…?) likes you, you may not be playing on the right team.
Magnify that scenario and you have DC. Remember that whole high school thing is very true. Fortunately, I had that bit of life experience under my belt so I think I’m prepared to negotiate it. But it makes one very, very cautious and not a little frustrated when what you want to do is rise above the fray and get some real work, work that has meaning, accomplished. I suppose it’s nothing but a challenge.
Okay then, I’m finishing up some brainstorming and light writing so I can get here later. Already intrigued by the book — although I’m not totally sold on what he’s saying — but the music would appear to also be a draw. That’s one hell of a guitar riff…
Then I’m going to attempt to walk down the street and take Ali’s contemporary class. We’ll see how that goes because I’m sure I’ll have at least one drink and alcohol and dance class really don’t work together (except for tap. Tap is a drinking person’s dance). Ali just posted this and every bit of it’s true. I particularly enjoyed the part about practicing any kind of dance in inappropriate places. Because that’s what dancers do. Hang out with me long enough and I’m doing pirouettes without thinking. Sorry.
But for now, enjoy some diversions because it’s going to be a long week for me so I may not get around to plugging anything else for several days.
The three funniest things to come across the screen today:
Dana Perino is my new hero. I laughed for a good 20 seconds, hard.
“There’s an evil wind ‘a blowin'” literally made me cry laughing. I needed a tissue and everything.
A good dude I know posted this piece on libertarianism and Christianity. I’m a big fan of Christianity — and not simply because I’m Catholic. It’s a groovy approach to life — so it’s pleasing to see someone embrace it and not try to dilute the core principles.
Read this. Krugman won the Nobel Prize for economics. Just wanted to remind you of that.
Stuff like this is so misleading. This says nothing about population rates, or relative income, or if people are moving out of their home city and then jumping a level. Pieces like this always feel like hit pieces with agendas to me…I hope that doesn’t make me paranoid…
Yeah, you kids need to get yo selves some refinement! Because The Philadelphia Story is one of the greatest films ever made. Truth.
Not everything this character says makes sense but it’s powerful and true enough to share. And sassy enough. We need more sassy.